What does a good relationship need?
Most people would probably agree that respect, companionship, mutual emotional support, sexual expression, economic security and, often, childrearing, are all important parts of an adult relationship.
We don't all want the same things out of life. If you feel comfortable to, you and your partner could each make a list of what is most important to you. Talk to each other about what is on your list. Remember, most people will want different things. Try to understand and respect the other person's needs.
Do you make time to talk about how your relationship is going?
You might like to consider these questions:
- How well do you think you and your partner understand each other - how you think, how you feel, what's important to you? Do you tell each other?
- How well can the two of you discuss a difficult issue?
- How often do you argue? If you have many arguments that you don't resolve, there may be communication problems. Lots of arguments over trivial issues may be a sign of a power struggle. If you never have any arguments, is it because you are avoiding important issues out of a fear of arguments?
- What interests do you have in common? What do you do together for fun and relaxation? How often do you do something enjoyable as a couple?
- How do you feel about your sexual relationship? Does sex usually leave you both feeling satisfied and good? Are you having any sexual problems?