Why can breaking-up be a health hazard?
Based on figures released by the Australian Bureau of Statistics:
- approximately one in three first marriages end in divorce
- most people who separate have been married less than 10 years.
(Australian Bureau of Statistics (2005), Divorces, Australia. ABS Catalogue No. 3307.0.0.55.001. Canberra: Commonwealth of Australia).
It usually takes two to three years for a couple whose relationship has broken up to begin to put their lives back together again. It sometimes takes five years for individuals and families to get over the emotional pain and trauma. Many people can have serious health and emotional problems during this time.
Many men, women and their children are significantly worse off financially following separation and divorce.
Willing to work at it ....
All couples experience problems in one form or another - it's part of sharing your life with another human being.
The difference between relationships that work, and relationships that don't, is how well couples deal with the challenges and problems they face in their life together.
The first step towards creating a happy, healthy relationship is your own willingness to work at it.
Most couples leave it until their relationship has already started to fall apart before they consider doing anything about the difficulties they have.
The best time to learn relationships skills is at the start of the relationship. That way you can spend the rest of your relationship putting into practice what you've learnt - which means you'll probably avoid major relationship difficulties further down the track. But it is never too late to make changes.