How can you improve your relationship?

Ideas to nurture your relationship include:

  • Talk about your day and the things that both excite or worry you.
  • Spend time alone together and ensure it is a priority.
  • Celebrate the good times together.
  • Express affection and give your partner thoughtful little surprises like a small gift, a flower from the garden on their bedside table, a favourite treat, an unpacked dishwasher or a special meal.
  • Develop common interests, though allow time for independent interests as well.
  • Listen to your partner and communicate your needs. Don't wait for your partner to try to guess what is going on for you.
  • Talk about sex and what is good about your sex life and what, if any, issues there are.
  • Tell your partner when you are happy or unhappy about something – honestly and respectfully - and encourage your partner to do the same. This is better than avoiding difficult topics.
  • Try to find solutions that are suitable for both of you. Prepare to compromise.
  • Respect and accept both your differences and your similarities. Try not to make judgements when your partner makes mistakes, or doesn’t do things your way.
  • Aim to be flexible and willing to change or try something new.
  • Be supportive in the good and the challenging times, and ask for help when you cannot cope with a situation.
  • Share the load - agree on who will do what in the household and to what standard.
  • Make some time just for yourself and encourage your partner to do the same.
  • Take responsibility for your actions and feelings.

One small change can sometimes make a big difference.

How Relationships Australia can help you

If you find there are aspects of your relationship where you struggle, consider talking with a relationship counsellor or attending a Relationships Skills course.

Relationships Australia State and Territory websites

The views or opinions expressed in this information are general in nature and do not constitute professional advice. You may benefit from professional help to deal with individual and complex issues.